I read a comment recently explaining that a child’s nervous system cannot differentiate between pain or threat of pain inflicted due to discipline or pain or threat of pain inflicted due to abuse and honestly that changed something in my head. Like. It doesn’t matter if the kid knows they have done something wrong and understands that there’s a punishment as a result. The nervous system cannot tell the difference.
i heard a great phrase that goes “i continue to cut but it’s still too short”
i feel it’s an abstract but highly accurate metaphor for how many raise their children. they’re trying to be even more strict to make the child behave well, but that inflicts even more damage on the child and the child misbehaves even more.
I was lucky to get both physical and verbal abuse from my family, so I’m just a grown up mess now.
I am glad to see the studies come out that validate these experiences on a more empirical level.
I read a comment recently explaining that a child’s nervous system cannot differentiate between pain or threat of pain inflicted due to discipline or pain or threat of pain inflicted due to abuse and honestly that changed something in my head. Like. It doesn’t matter if the kid knows they have done something wrong and understands that there’s a punishment as a result. The nervous system cannot tell the difference.
i heard a great phrase that goes “i continue to cut but it’s still too short”
i feel it’s an abstract but highly accurate metaphor for how many raise their children. they’re trying to be even more strict to make the child behave well, but that inflicts even more damage on the child and the child misbehaves even more.
That’s a pretty good metaphor