Someone saw that Black Mirror episode and said “Let’s make that for real.”
I think you mean that Community episode.
Oh great another centralized repository of data about people (uploaded without their knowledge or consent in the case of the men) that definitely won’t be abused by bad actors
Anddddd…, it’s already been breached: https://www.404media.co/women-dating-safety-app-tea-breached-users-ids-posted-to-4chan/
Oooooooooof
It’s even mentioned at the top of the linked article.
Tea, which topped the Apple App Store charts this week — shortly before the app was hacked.
This post is directly under a post about the breach in my feed.
Saw that coming.
If I was going to make something like this, it would have to incorporate trust chains. I don’t care if some maga-hat says this lady is horrible. I care if my good friend Alex says she’s horrible. One person’s “this person won’t shut up about communism” is a big red flag (no pun intended) but for someone else that’s the dream.
When you sign up, you’d need to be referred to someone or be a root node. Anyone connected to you can be weighted differently. If some section of the tree is misbehaving, prune it.
But that’s a lot of work
Imagine if the genders were swapped in this situation
Or if this was targeted at virtually any other category of people
How is this not a stalking app?
This is fucked up.
This is psychotic.
There is no way this would get abused by threat actors and mentally unstable types!
Or by a vindictive ex.
So I’ve had multiple GF’s who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters… so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?
So glad this didn’t exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house… When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn’t exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.
But all the “stories” on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right… Evidence was required… right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It’s not like women have ever made false rape claims… right…
I’m not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through… but you can’t just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn’t fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that’s selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.
People who pretend to be victims upset me almost as much as people who victimize others (they are not equal, but it is still so fucked up). Victims have a rough enough time already being taken seriously. It doesn’t take more than a few false positives to completely take the air out of legitimate accusations from victims. I wish there was some way to solve this problem.
I don’t know why they upset you “almost as much” - people who pretend to be victims are in fact people that are victimizing others. “Other sides” notwithstanding, you said it yourself in so many words: they’re also further victimizing actual victims.
I frankly find it more inexcusable.
Thank God we have the GDPR in Europe.
Huh…
Part of these types of things generally seem like a well-intentioned idea, but it’s also so creepy, scammy, and gross. This data won’t stop here by any means, and will be sold or used in a million different even shittier ways. Pretty fucked.
It’s fine, no reason to sell the data, the service was literally just breached!
Don’t these companies know how to properly configure a database? This seemed like it was completely preventable.
Starting salary for a cyber security expert is around 70,000€ and that’s for someone who’s relatively inexperienced so you would probably want to pay more like 90,000€, for these startups that’s seven or eight employees worth of salary and they don’t want to pay it.
The problem is it leads to things like this happening which kills their entire company.
Or they could do what they’re doing now which is work with a consultancy company which doesn’t cost anywhere near as much money but still costs quite a bit.
Don’t worry I’m sure the owner has already pocketed $10m in investor money and is currently parachuting away to plan their next fuckup
Don’t these companies know
No. The answer is always no
They don’t care. It’s not their information and there are no consequences.
Tea just suffered a massive data leak
Gotta be a special type fuckbrain to give this app a photo and a copy of your gotdamn ID.
<sarcasm>Else how can you certify you are a woman ? We don’t want a man lurking around</sarcasm>
Kinda wild that app stores allow something like that. I wonder how long it’ll take for someone to build the same up, but with the roles reversed: Men anonymously talking about local women 😬
Android users report the app here: https://support.google.com/googleplay/answer/2853570?hl=en&co=GENIE.Platform%3DAndroid#zippy=%2Cflag-an-app-on-google-play
honestly I doubt it’ll do anything but it can’t hurt to try
In theory it should be fine the problem is women always assume bad intent on the part of men, and good intent on the part of other women despite a fairly obvious fact that that’s ridiculous.
The problem is there doesn’t seem to be any system in place for review or correction. What if there someone who just doesn’t like me and posts photos and lies about me? Not only would I have no opportunity to correct the record, but unless someone I knew who was on the app told me about it, I wouldn’t even know because men aren’t allowed on.
As someone who’s stayed away from creating accounts like Facebook the concept of being encouraged to share photos and real identities of people who haven’t consented to being on the social media site is really creepy to me.
Its like some random social media account shows up and you never signed up but a profile for you has already been made and has all these photos you never even shared on there because someone chose to upload them in your place.
I’d rather people choose not to associate with people who don’t have an account that has vetted on safety than be opted into something like this without choice.
“What clubs does he go to?” another person asked on a different post. “He’s cute.”
Clubs? Are we in the 90ies?
What? What term would be preferable to you?
Gen Z Man Reveals What Really ‘Killed Club Culture’
etc., you get the hint.
A study recently linked it to
- affordance (see above)
- better general consciousness for health vs. alcohol
- less tolerance for drunken slipups due to social media
Oh. So, you’re saying you don’t go to clubs. I thought you might have been saying it’s an outdated expression.
Alright then, carry on.
Denial will only hurt you later.
What on Earth are you talking about?
Edit oh, I’m not denying that club culture is dying and more unaffordable, I’m merely glad I wasn’t that out of the loop, thought there’s a new word for “club”
90ies
I can’t help but “hear” this as “Ninety eez”.
Whoops, native-germansher Verschreiber.
:(
Some of us
Some salty content here for no reason.
Nobody is writing about you, misogynists of Lemmy, because nobody is dating you.
It’s absolutely crazy to assume that anyone who sees the obvious issues with this app is a misogynist
From just a privacy perspective having people freely share photos, videos, and info you may have never even uploaded to the internet and compiling a community driven profile despite not opening an account there is creepy.
It’s fine if it’s community driven profiling among members who chose to voluntarily create an account understanding the terms and conditions. Like if a social media called meowmeowbeans was created, and people who want that extra safety decided to only associate with people on meowmeowbeans and would tell people I only meet people who are on meowmeowbeans so make an account and get verified if you want to meet. If you won’t then I want nothing to do with you.
I’d rather meowmeowbeans socially pressure people who want to associate with meowmeowbeans users have to voluntarily become meowmeowbeans verified as opposed to this form of information sharing that people haven’t consented to and having pages dedicated to them that people are using to discuss them.
This is Lemmy after all and not instagram, TikTok, or Facebook where people are encouraged to share their personal information. And more tech leaning, so people are going to be less open to the idea of a database popping up encouraging people to contribute any photos, videos, and personal information on random individuals to create profile pages for people who never signed up. Whether it is big tech or individuals insisting data collection and making a public profile is for safety its going to be seen with skepticism.
Gender doesn’t have to do with it, since there isn’t a law exempting specific genders from this and a site encouraging people to add info to a profile could be made for any reason. Like a similar site being made where members are asked to share information about political ideology of individuals they know and to share stories and evidence.
Two wrongs don’t make one right.
There is not and will never be any valid reason to create a hidden database of non-verified, non-authorized and potentially defamatory information about other people.
