My brother in Christ, you do not realize how down bad the 20-something girls with daddy issues are.
My best friend hooked an old guy without custody of his kids. They’re moving in together next week.
Edit: My point is that people like her exist and have their own preferences. Unfortunately the vast majority of men she goes out with are creeps. I’m going to support my friend, but I’m also doing a very in depth background check as soon as I learn his last name. The overwhelming majority of men interested in much younger women are creeps.
My best friend, now 45 once told me that i was the only guy she was ever attacked to her that is actually younger than her. I didn’t really think anything about it, untill she told me that her first real boyfriend was 45 when she was 19. And her boyfriends only got older
That is super gross.
There were certain expectations as to social norms and etiquette held by buttnugget@lemmy.world.
Me: “I’ll do my best but you know how hard it is to resist this.” Gestures at dad bod
Wife: “Oh, I’m well aware.”
Me: 😘
Wife: 😏… 🍆👉👌
Well, at least the wife thinks highly of you.
In a sense of understanding the wife’s perspective, proximity is just as important as the other major factors that affect how likely a relationship is to begin. There was a cool study of college students who lived in an apartment style building that showed you were most likely to begin a relationship with the person who had a door immediately next to yours. The only exception to that was for the person who had a door immediately next to the mailboxes. Proximity matters because it lets another person see you enough to form opinions based on a lot of interactions, and we all know someone who ‘shines’ despite their physical looks.
Plot twist: new neighbor was wearing a shirt that read, “I <3 dad bods,” and was already flirting (asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll) with the guy in sweatpants.
asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll
Just as an aside, I would do this regardless of my interest. If I’m moving and there’s someone watching, I’m going to try to enlist help. They can say no and I won’t be offended in any way, but I’ll give it a shot, because moving sucks and it’s faster with more hands. I won’t gush about how strong the movers are or anything, but I will offer them beer/pizza afterwards.
I more meant that sometimes requests for help are seen as flirting, when they’re about as casual and commonplace as can be.
I’m a guy and Idk about this sweatpants things, pls someone give me some context.
Aka “jogging pants”, “lounge pants”, “tracksuit bottoms”, “trackies”, “tracky daks”, or “trackpants”.
They’re a kind of soft trousers or loose leggings worn typically for comfort or athletic purposes.
wife in a healthy relationship, looking at her sweatpantsed husband: heavy breathing Oh my!
never underestimate the desire of some women for married man. I had a friend once tell me shw only dated married man because she knew he was good enough. No need to say the friendship didn’t last long
This is a real phenomenon. Men are more attractive when they’re already in a relationship.
There are similar psychological effects that exist elsewhere. A job applicant is more attractive if they currently have a job. A scholarship application is more attractive if you list your existing scholarships. The effect is basically: someone else found you desirable, and therefore I must also.
The effect is so strong that it encourages people to fake it to gain the benefits.
You’re also more confident when you’re not looking for anything tbh
That’s especially great with salary negotiations. When you’ve already got a stable job there is nothing to lose from aiming high.
Also the reason for the rock star phenomenon.
A girl sees a guy with a girlfriend. Girl’s monkeybrain says “she thinks he’s a good bet, so he’s already been vetted, and he’s probably a good bet.”
Now a girl sees a guy at a party with two girls flirting with him. Now two other girls think he’s a good bet. He must be a good bet.
Now scale up. One guy is on stage playing the guitar. 3000 women are screaming that they love him. Our girl’s monkeybrain: “literally thousands of other girls are debasing themselves to be with him - he is the most desireable guy in the world. Quick, scream, get his attention! He’s your perfect soul mate, just make him notice you!”
Or how employers are more likely to hire you if you’ve already got a job.
Real, and even more cruel.
I must be ugly as sin. My wife and I have been married almost five years and I have yet to be in a situation where a woman is pursuing me and I can shout, “I don’t know you! You’re not my wife!” and run away.
MY DUMB LUCK: does it anyway somehow
ALSO MY DUMB LUCK: wife is into it
Isn’t that her daughter? I tell you there is some porn that I’ll never want to understand
That’s her clone.
its not a clone. its her from a different universe
Nope, she’s potentially the original, or a clone. https://rickandmorty.fandom.com/wiki/Space_Beth
i cant believe i fucked up my rick and morty lore…
About 16% in men have a fat fetish compared to <1% of women. Also about 36% of women prefer a partner heavier than them. Also, 97% want a man who’s taller than them while about 2 % of women want a man smaller than them.
Of all the people currently alive, about 7% are women aged 25-35. of those 1% like fat men, of those 2% want the man to be smaller. So you have 0.0014% of any given population who is female 25-35 and likes small fat men. About half of them are single, you you have 0.0007% of any population who will find you attractive.
In a city of 400,000 people that’s 3
Lemmy is finally in its incelposting phase! Not good!
Where are you getting these numbers?
Straight out of their butt im guessing
So you’re saying there’s a chance.
fat
Not a deal breaker. The dad bod is in. I suspect other dad qualities are also in. Like sweatpants and socks with sandals.
!socks with sandals!<
Whoa! A little warning before dropping something that hot in here!
Oh bless your heart.
You realize that.a young woman who is even mildly attractive can pretty well have her pick of men her own age. She dont want no tubby dude 20 years older, wearing clothes from Costco and driving around in a Subaru crosstrek.
Once us guys hit our 40s we just disappear into the hedges like homer, just part of the background.
Look, champ, I don’t even know where to start with that screed of yours; it’s like you veered across every social lane marker at once and somehow managed to cut off common decency in the process. People are out here trying to keep their traction in a world full of potholes; maybe set the cruise‑control of basic respect before you rear‑end reality, yeah?
How dare you talk shit about the Subaru Crosstrek. We’re dealing with a 220 mm ground‑clearance, symmetrical‑AWD, snow‑eating, gravel‑spitting, apocalypse‑commuter that will outlive three of your fashion cycles and still start on a minus‑five morning without a whimper.
It’s a five‑star‑safety‑rated go‑anywhere hatchback that gulps eight‑litres‑per‑hundred on the highway while your precious status wagons guzzle twice that idling at a café; it holds its resale value like a dragon sits on gold; throw a kayak on the roof, a mountain bike in the back, and go touch grass. The Crosstrek is the Swiss Army knife of daily drivers; slagging it off is like mocking duct tape - it only proves you’ve never fixed anything in your life.
Oh lovely, the Subaru Crosstrek. The automotive equivalent of a bearded man in hiking boots who’s never seen a mountain. Yes, yes—220mm of ground clearance, symmetrical all-wheel-drive, and a CVT that responds to throttle like a golden retriever responds to algebra.
You call it an apocalypse commuter? Please. The only thing this thing has ever survived is a steep mall parking ramp. It’s not a rugged off-roader—it’s a cosplay Jeep for people who think flannel is a personality. This car talks a big game about conquering snow and gravel, but starts hyperventilating the moment it sees a hill and a headwind at the same time.
And let’s talk about power—actually, let’s not, because there isn’t any. Merging on the motorway in a Crosstrek isn’t just dangerous, it’s spiritual. You put your foot down, say a quick prayer to the gearbox gods, and hope that the CVT decides to simulate a gear that moves you forward rather than just turning fuel into unpleasant noise. Resale value, Swiss Army knife, duct tape metaphors—fine. But at the end of the day, it’s a hatchback with hiking stickers, delusions of grandeur, and the acceleration of a depressed tortoise.
It’s not that the Crosstrek is bad. It’s just that it pretends so very hard to be brilliant—while delivering the dynamic excitement of a soggy oat biscuit.
Did you AI generate this entire response…?
Pretty obvious on account of all the em dashes lol.
Real people use em dashes — the models were trained on real human output after all — so this new crusade against em dashes as the Mark of Beast for AI has always been and continues to be silly.
Real people use emojis too
Doesn’t explain why AI bots loooooove:
- 🙃 lists with emojis as list points
- 💩 Em—dashes—without—spaces
- 🥴 Weird as hell analogies like:
- 🦮 “responds to throttle like a golden retriever responds to algebra”
- 🍆 For the record GPT didn’t write this
if the wife even has to say that, how insecure is that lol
I assumed it was a joke
No, it was very serious. Big red flag. He should hit a lawyer, delete a gym, and social media up.
Without context we can’t know if it was serious, a joke, or completely made up.
This platform just doesn’t do jokes, does it?
Too many people take things too seriously. Without context you just can’t make those sort of judgements.
